Intentional Teacher-ing

This past Sunday, I attended the Intentional Parenting conference with Sissy Goff and David Thomas, and after reflecting on my notes, so much of the parenting ideas work for teachers as well. During the conference, we discussed four different areas of intentional parenting, and below are some of my key takeaways:

Being a Connected Parent
  • Involves being in their lives
  • Involves relationships
  • Involves real time

Being a Consistent Parent
  • "Discipline is an extended and carefully managed event, not a sudden, spontaneous, personal reaction to a child’s behavior."
  • Two typical problems in discipline: too much talk and too much emotion
  • Start discipline with a yellow light (Say, "You’re now at a yellow light" and allow child to self-regulate and calm down.)
    • Allow kids to go to a safe place to self-regulate and cope
    • Help kids identify ways to self-regulate and post a list for them to follow (i.e., count to thirty, color, do a puzzle, think of 5 positive things, sing, read your Bible, pray, listen to music, etc,)
  • When disciplining, give a child a choice and then accelerate the consequences without getting emotional.
  • Follow through with discipline. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t forget that you grounded your kid!
  • Shut-up and let the consequences do the teaching.
  • A great line to use is "I love you too much to argue."

Being a Balanced Parent
  • Balance time— as a parent, you give and give and give. Be sure you find a time to recharge daily (whatever that is).
  • Balance support
    • Too much support limits growth. Be careful the message you send. If you coach too much, you communicate the kid cannot solve problems on his own.
    • Show empathy and ask lots of questions. Give kids a chance to take the lead by asking, "So what do you think you should do?" Instead of saying, "You know what you should do…" This sends the message that you believe in your kid and that he can do it.
  • Balance emotion. Emotionally charged moments= mistakes. Create time and space when you get emotional.

Being a Patient Parent
  • If your kids are rushed or stressed, start 15 minutes earlier.
  • Be considerate of your child’s capabilities.
  • Kids today are anxious (1 in 4 reportedly; three years ago it was 1 in 7). They get overwhelmed and we get angry. We have to remember we’re the adult. We need to be patient and help kids work through their anxiety.
  • Don’t take things personally.
  • Be patient with yourself. As a parent, you’re going to blow it.
  • Make your own yellow light coping list.
  • Remember, we serve a God who redeems all mistakes.

While these are great tips for parents, they’re just as applicable to teachers because we work with kids every day. Just as they need their parents to be connected, consistent, balanced, and patient, our kids need us to be those things, too. When we started the year, we talked about how anxious are students are, and we can’t forget that.

We’re in a time of the year where we all feel pulled in many directions and we feel stressed. Our students are no different— except because we’re older, we’ve learned some ways to cope and they may still be learning. Let’s model that and be intentional educators to help our students be successful.

  • Our special assemblies about internet safety were great on Monday. A big thanks goes to Jan Penrod for inviting Genevie Strickland from the Morgan Nick Foundation to speak to our students and parents. On Monday night, we had a great turnout, and our parents really appreciated the night. Awesome job!

  • HUGE shout-outs are in order for Steve Quattlebaum and Jason Gates. They put in a crazy amount of hours with our JH and HS girls’ basketball teams, and we had a great season. Coach Q and Coach Gates are tremendous coaches and role models for our students, and I’m so thankful for what they bring to our girls’ basketball program.

  • Congratulations to Richard Burton for a great wrestling season. Coach Burton did an outstanding job in his first year as the CAC wrestling coach, and our guys represented CAC well at the state tournament. A big thanks goes to Coach Burton for a great season and the impact he had on the lives on our wrestlers. Awesome job!

  • With Mr. Harris being out this week, Coach Q has stepped up and filled in for APUSH. I’m so thankful for Coach Q’s willingness to help. Our APUSH students are still on track and will do great on the AP exam in May thanks to Coach Q.

  • Chapel this week was great. A big thanks goes to Coach Morse for inviting Spencer Cromwell on Monday and the youth minister group on Tuesday. Both days were awesome, and our students were really engaged. Also, a thank you goes to Gee Santos for leading our worshipful Wednesday chapel. He did a great job!

Upcoming Events
  • Today
    • Chick-Fil-A Leader Academy Meeting/Project (7:30-9:35)
    • Week B for 7th & 8th grade 4th period rotations
  • Monday, March 4
    • College Tour Leaves (5:30 AM)
  • Tuesday, March 5
    • Author Visit
      • Elementary Session— 9:00-9:45 PM
      • 6th, 7th, & 8th Grades— 11:00-11:45 PM
      • 9th & 10th Grades— 1:00-1:45 PM
    • Screenagers— PA; 6 PM (free; Information below)
  • Wednesday, March 6
    • Faculty Meeting— 7:30 AM; Library
    • College Tour Returns (evening)
  • Thursday, March 7
    • Faculty Lunch Provided
    • HS Choir Performance Assessment— 12:00-2:30 PM
  • Friday, March 8
    • Matinee Performance of Little Mermaid— 9:00 AM
  • Saturday, March 9
    • Quiz Bowl Tournament— E-Stem; 9:00 AM
    • Little Mermaid— 7 PM
  • Sunday, March 10
    • Little Mermaid— 2 PM
  • Monday, March 11
    • Little Mermaid— 7 PM
  • Wednesday, March 13
    • Europe Trip Leaves
    • End of 3rd Grading Period
    • 2:00 Early Dismissal (students); 4:00 (faculty/staff)
  • Thursday, March 14
    • JH Choir Tour (all day)
  • Monday, March 18-Friday, March 22
    • Spring Break!
  • Monday, March 25
    • 7th & 8th Grade Roster Changes
  • Wednesday, March 27
    • Spain Trip students back at school

Anything missing? If so, please let me know.

Responsibilities for the Week of March 4-8
  • Cafeteria AM— A. Diles
  • Cafeteria PM— I. Thomas
  • Parking Lot AM— T. Vick
  • Parking Lot PM— B. Arnold
  • Lunches— Coaches
  • D-Hall— J. Teigen
  • Chapel
    • Monday— J. Gafford
    • Tuesday— J. Gafford
    • Wednesday— Worshipful Wednesday
    • Thursday— Admin Chapel
    • Friday— STUCO chapel (L. Noble)

Remember, it is your responsibility to find a replacement if you are unable to cover your assigned duty. Check the cheat sheet for the full duty schedule.

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